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Talking With Your Child About Divorce

How to Talk With Your Kids About Divorce

According to the American Psychological Association, 40-50 percent of all marriages end in divorce. Filing for divorce is never an easy choice, and when you have children, things become even more complicated. If you’re preparing to go through a divorce and you and your partner do have children, then make sure you discuss these family changes with your children.

Starting the Conversation

Perhaps one of the most difficult aspects of divorcing when you have children is simply starting the conversation about how your family is about to change. No one wants to begin a conversation that can be scary, painful, or emotional, but it’s important to include your children in the process so that they understand what’s going to happen.

Make sure you and your partner sit down together with your children. This will help present a united front as you speak with your little ones about what’s going to happen. Remind your children that the divorce isn’t their fault. Explain that you’re not mad at your children or angry with them. Sometimes, parents choose to divorce, and it doesn’t mean they don’t care deeply for their children. It’s vital that you reinforce the idea that the divorce isn’t your child’s fault as many children struggle with the reasons for a couple’s separation.

Ensuring Open Communication

Ask open-ended questions as you talk with your children. Encourage them to share their thoughts and concerns during this time. The most important thing to remember is that you, your former partner, and your children all need to be able to talk with each other. You’re all in this together, and although your family dynamics will be changing, you’re still a family.

Avoid becoming angry or frustrated when you speak with your children. You and your former partner should aim to speak in calm, low tones as you discuss the process with your kids. Keep in mind that it’s normal for kids to feel a variety of emotions, including confusion, anger, and frustration. Your children may also feel sad. Take a deep breath, but try to remain focused and calm as you discuss the process with your children.

Easing Fears

If your children feel scared, understand that this is a normal emotion. Take necessary steps to eliminate as much fear as possible. Remind your children that you and their other parent still love them. Explain how sleeping and living arrangements will change. If possible, read with your kids books about divorce. Most importantly, answer as many questions for your children as you can. While you don’t need to reveal specific reasons for your divorce, remind your children that the divorce isn’t their fault.

You may also choose to seek divorce support from a mediator or even a family counselor who can offer further ideas for sticking together as a family and help you and your children communicate during this time. Counseling sessions may be attended by you, your children, and your former partner. You may attend family counseling in a group or individually. The primary goal is to help ease your children’s transition, so don’t be afraid to reach out and get the assistance your family needs during this difficult time.

How Your Attorney Can Help

As you prepare for your divorce, a lawyer can offer the guidance and assistance you need to move forward. Stewart Law LLC has a family law attorney who’s ready to answer your questions and guide you through the legal process as you and your partner separate. Whether you want to legally separate from one another or you’re ready to begin the divorce process, reach out for a confidential consultation. Call our office in Baytown at (281) 420-8020 today to receive the assistance you need. We’re ready to help you and your family as you prepare for the next stage of your life. Our attorney will strive to address any concerns or questions you may have.

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